It’s been a while since we updated anything on our adoption. Part of the reason for the delay is a series of tumultuous events in our life shortly after returning from Ghana. Perhaps we’ll be able to share more about that later, but for now, we are simply concentrating on walking in obedience to Christ and getting our new sons home!
As most of you probably know, we traveled to Ghana in mid-September for our court date. It was important to us to meet Koby and Kwesi before we went to court, so we traveled and met them the day before our court date. Emotions were turning with nervous anxiety for us and for them, I’m sure, as we sat and watched them enter the gate to our hotel. However, we warmed up to each other quickly, and Christy and I fell in love with them again as we spent time with them. See this pic of our first face to face encounter.
The night before court was filled with much anxiety as well. Christy and I spent a lot of time praying and seeking God. So much change for our family rested in the next 24 hours, and this court decision would ultimately change the course of many lives. We were concerned and a bit fearful. Eventually the Holy Spirit reminded us of God’s work in this, and we knew that God in His sovereignty had brought us to this moment, and we were content to trust Him!
Our court session was in Cape Coast, so we set out for an interesting trip in a van full of parents, children, and orphanage personnel. Eventually we found ourselves in the judge’s chambers. We listened intently as she went over the paper work commenting from time to time. Eventually looking at Christy and me she declared that from this day forward Edward Kwobena Armah would be known as James Koby McCosh and that from this day forward Gerrad Kwesi Owusu wouldbe known as Josiah Gerrad McCosh, the names we had chosen for the boys. She further stated that Christy and I were now their legal parents, and reminded us that we are responsible for their food, shelter, clothing, education, and medical care etc.
In the moment of the pronouncement of the decree, emotionally I experienced a familiar place not much different than that when my 3 biological children were birthed into this world. Up to the point of delivery, I knew they were mine, and I couldn’t wait to see them and hold them, but Christy had taken care of them pretty much solo up to that point. However, the moment they were born, I somehow immediately morphed into the provider and protector–The proud but cautiously over-protective father.
Emotionally, this adoption decree was very similar. At once, at the moment of the pronouncement, unexpectedly, I felt it–OKAY THESE ARE MY SONS, and I will provide and protect them as my sons Forever! At that point, even though I already loved them, the paradigm changed. The love I have for them now is different! Now I love them as my own sons! I am so thankful that God’s love for me is that of a son. I wonder if upon the moment of my conversion and justification if God’s heart felt like mine: “Now your are my son forever!”
John 1:12 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name.
Rom 8:14-17 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. 15 For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” 16 The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, 17 and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ . . .
The next several days with them were such a blessing. You can see pics of our trip here. We enjoyed spending all of our time with them, but unfortunately we had to leave them behind for now. We still have to wait on approval from the USCIS to get visas to bring them home.
That’s where this post comes in. Our court decree had misspelled names, and we haven’t been able to get a corrected decree so we can file our paperwork. It’s caused us to delay filing for more than a month. Please pray that we can get our corrected decree and that our I600 can get filed and approved quickly. Please help us pray Koby and Si home!
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